This is a failed blog about sexism and sexism in punk rock.
I’ve totally tried to write eloquently and seriously about sexism and sexism in punk rock. I continue to fail at this, and it upsets me. Growing up in DC punk rock is, I think or hope anyway, a little different from growing up in other punk rock scenes. Maybe it’s because the women that created spaces in opposition were unstoppable, or maybe it was because Ian MacKaye, a patriarch of punk was pretty awesome to talented people and his example for us dudes led the way. Coincidentally, I think that Ian MacKaye as my punk patriarch, as problematic as the mythos about the man were, was my greatest role model.
Part of my problem is I’m not a hyper-aware kind of dude. I don’t believe that my beloved DC punk scene was free of sexism. In fact, some parts of it that I rolled in from time to time were down right misogynistic. But there was a post-punk, DIY, politically minded scene where a lot of great women were involved. Not just as musicians but as organizers, label heads, show promoters, engineers, etc. They were also role models to me, people who did amazing things, often tirelessly, thanklessly and in opposition. And sure, the women I got to know in DC punk had tons of stories of sexism, but they always seemed to be from on the road, far away from our scene. But again, I am aloof. It’s not that I don’t care, I’m just careless. I get aware of the bands on stage, making the noise I love. I’m not paying attention to the crowd of people next to me, or the interactions. I was oblivious to it. Not because I don’t like to confront bullshit, that’s just how I get around live music, oblivious to the world around me.
But there is no doubt that the problems of sexism, and her brothers homophobia and racism, existed in my scene and in punk rock at large. I just wish I knew what I could do about it. Especially at 34 from Albuquerque, NM where I haven’t found the DIY, punk, political scene too much. Except for Ronoso (can’t get the damn tile to work) who are grind, and vegan, and awesome. I know it’s not much different in regular society, and I know my own behaviors aren’t always awesome, but I want to be an active, involved and engaged ally. Part of the problem is the engaged thing.
Another problem is embracing parts of “maleness” that might be threatening or just make people uncomfortable. Look, Dude Jams, Too Many Daves, fat, drunk guys without shirts are things I love. Part of it is celebrating just being a loser, which is something I identify with. Part of it is saying fuck off to the “ideal” masculine paradigm by celebrating fat bodies and alternate types of maleness. Some of it is just dumb fun. Some of it is thoughtless, and thoughtlessness can be harmful to other people. It’s trying to navigate the space so we can all be self celebratory and comfortable with each other. Sometimes people overstep boundaries. Sometimes they do it because fighting makes them tired so they just take. Sometimes they do it because they don’t care. Sometimes they do it because they don’t know that shit that seems awesome and natural and self celebratory to them might be offensive or make other people uncomfortable. Bodies and the way we celebrate some and reject others in America is totally fucked up and not right. There has to be a way to reclaim that shit.
So, part of my process is just writing about it here. My problems, my confusion, my messy head, just getting these words out is how I try and learn and get better. Another part is once again looking to the brave, amazing, talented and powerful women in punk rock who are again, tirelessly and thanklessly talking about these issues. They are doing so in the face of more, predictable, fragile punk rock boy whining whose fear birthed that whole gotheMo movement that I think, maybe is done? I hope. Anyway, the rad blog I Live Sweat has three awesome essays by three awesome ladies that I think you should read and think about. No matter where you are on the gender/sexuality spectrum. No matter if you like Black Flag or Jay Z. This little scene is just a small microcosm of the larger world anyway. You can replace “punk” with any other scene or just remove the word all together and it still matters.
I am gonna continue to think about this shit, try to be a better human being, think about my own words and actions, how they affect other people and try to create safe and awesome spaces for everyone, no matter their identity in this world, self or societal. If there are experiences or readings about this shit, done especially by men, about this shit that you think I or the world could benefit from, please comment. That would be rad. Let’s make a dialog, let’s get action going, lets honestly put our selves in check. We can do all of this and still be awesome and have fun! Being respectful does not have to equal boring, lame and reserved. It mostly mans not being a self-centered asshole. Life is an awesome, beautiful, amazing party with so much awesomeness and rad dudes. We should get into it, be active about it and have a good time.
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